When two preschoolers fight over a puzzle, which is the most appropriate teacher response?

• A. Step in and take the puzzle away.
• B. Solve it for them.
• C. Ignore and move on.
• D. Give them a chance or opportunity to work it out themselves.

Answer: (D)

When children encounter a disagreement, the goal is to support their ability to solve problems and manage emotions themselves. Offering a chance to work it out helps preschoolers practice turn-taking, negotiation, and sharing, while you coach them with gentle guidance. Acknowledge both kids’ feelings, set a simple plan for solving the moment (for example, taking turns or trading the puzzle after a short shared attempt), and step back to let them try first. This approach builds autonomy and social skills instead of bypassing the learning by taking over or solving it for them. Stepping in to take the puzzle away stops the opportunity to practice problem-solving, solving it for them removes the chance to develop independence, and ignoring the situation leaves the conflict unresolved and emotions unaddressed.